table-talks-conversations-with-teensThe questions in Table Talks are intended to start open and honest family conversations on topics that can be uncomfortable and are not often a part of the daily dialogue between parents (or other caregivers) and their teenagers.

Approaching these chats from a curious perspective should make these conversation starters more effective. Generally, teens are far more willing to talk when they’re perceived as the authorities on these topics.

What They Don’t Teach Teens (publishing in late 2018 by Quill Driver Books) will detail the legal, emotional, and physical aspects of these and other important issues to further educate teens (parents and caregivers too!) on modern-day life safety skills.

Physical Safety

Sexual Assault: Just When You Thought You Knew Someone

  • Why is hearing yes better than not hearing no?
  • What are the different ways you can see and/or hear that someone means yes or no?
  • Question for boys: What can you do to help prevent sexual assault?
  • What’s the most common drug associated with sexual assault?

How to Safely Interact with Police

  • What challenges do you think American police face?
  • Why do you think police shoot so many Americans?
  • What should you do or not do when interacting with police?

Teen Dating Violence: Physical, Emotional and Sexual Abuse

  • What’s the difference between a healthy relationship and an abusive one?
  • Who could you talk to if you were in an abusive relationship?
  • What are safe ways to end a relationship?

Get Off Your Damned Phone and Look Around

  • What does situational awareness mean?
  • What are examples of situational awareness?
  • What does it mean to trust your instincts?

Surviving Street Encounters

  • What can you do to prevent verbal harassment from becoming physical?
  • How can you minimize your risks when being robbed?
  • What would you do if a “bad guy” ordered you to a different location?
  • How can you tell the difference between someone who looks good and someone who is good?

Gun Violence and Mass Shooters Have Become as American as Apple Pie

  • How would someone potentially having a gun change how you interact with them?
  • What would you do if you thought you heard gunfire at work or school?

Digital Safety

Digital Technology Is Forever—Your Future Is Literally in Your Hands

  • What can you do to avoid digital mistakes?
  • Do you know of any stories of kids getting into trouble using their cellphones?
  • What do prospective employers and college administrators want to know about their candidates?

The Extreme Hazards of Teen Sexting (revenge porn is only one of them!)

  • What are the risks of sexting?
  • What’s the best way to say no to a request to sext an image of yourself?
  • How can you avoid becoming a victim of revenge porn?
  • What are the legal risks of sending or keeping a nude image of someone younger than eighteen?

The Devastating Impact of Cyberbullying

  • What’s an example of cyberbullying?
  • How can you help protect yourself from cyberbullying?
  • Who can you talk to if you’re a victim of cyberbullying?

Emotional Safety

You Don’t Have to Talk with Police or Consent to Searches

  • What should you do when questioned by a police officer?
  • What should you do when a police officer asks to search you or your vehicle?
  • What are some ways to stay out of court and jail?
  • When should you ethically or morally always talk freely to the police?

How to Recognize and Stop Sexual Harassment

  • What’s sexual harassment?
  • Can you protect yourself from sexual harassment?
  • What should you do if you’re being sexually harassed?
  • How do you make a sexual harassment complaint to your school?

The Most Important Word in Your Vocabulary: “No”

  • Is it hard for you to say no to your friends?
  • What are different ways you can say no?
  • How can you say no without ever saying the word no?

The Game Changer: Happy Eighteenth Birthday!

  • What changes for you when you turn eighteen?
  • What’s a contract?
  • What does it mean to get sued?
  • When should you put something in writing?
  • What’s the difference between good and bad credit?